Is my boyfriend cheating?

[Keeely]

Hey y'all, I need some advice. I think my boyfriend is having an affair. He's been coming home really late lately, and he has this second phone that he's always on. I've asked him about it, but he just gets really evasive. I don't know what to do because I really like him, but he also has a reputation for being a player. What do you guys think?

[katie90]

Hey girl, sorry to hear that. It's always tough when you suspect something like that. My advice would be to have an open and honest conversation with him. Tell him how you're feeling and ask him directly if he's seeing someone else. If he is, then at least you know and can move on. If he's not, then maybe there's some other explanation for his behavior that you're not aware of. Either way, it's important to communicate and be honest with each other.

[Lucy]

Dump him. Plain and simple. If he's giving you all these signs that he's cheating, then why waste your time with him? You deserve someone who will treat you with respect and not play games with you. Don't be afraid to be alone for a while. It's better than being with someone who doesn't value you!!!!

[Karen]

Ha! Sounds like you got yourself a real winner there, love. Maybe he's just got a secret job as a spy or something. But seriously, if he's treating you like that, then you don't need him in your life. Kick him to the curb and find someone who will treat you like the queen you are. And if he's cheating on you, then give him a good slap for me.

[Lewis]

It does sound like your boyfriend's behavior is cause for concern. While it is possible that there may be a reasonable explanation for his late nights and second phone, his unwillingness to be forthcoming with you is troubling. As the old saying goes, where there is smoke, there is often fire.

I cannot stress enough the importance of trust in any relationship, particularly a romantic one. If your boyfriend has betrayed your trust, whether through infidelity or deception, it may be time to reevaluate the future of your relationship. It may be painful, but it is better to confront the truth than to live in denial.

However, I must also caution against jumping to conclusions or making accusations without evidence. It may be worth having an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about your concerns, and giving him the opportunity to explain his behaviour.

Ultimately, only you can decide what is best for you and your well-being. Pray for guidance, seek counsel from trusted friends and family, and trust in God's plan for your life.

[Lucy]

Oh, honey, ain't nobody got time for that! If your man is coming home late and has a second phone that he's always on, then it's pretty clear what's going on. And let me guess, when you confront him about it, he gets all defensive and dodgy? Girl, wake up and smell the coffee! Your man is playing you like a fiddle!

Look, I get it. You like him. But that doesn't mean you have to put up with his BS. You deserve better than that, and you know it. So stop making excuses for him and start standing up for yourself. If he's really cheating on you, then you need to cut him loose and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and you don't need a player like him dragging you down.

[sue]

Don't be a fool, girl. You deserve respect, honesty, and loyalty. And if your man can't give you those things, then he's not worth your time. So, find someone who will treat you right. You got this!